Litmus Test

          This week I'm taking a break from the normal format of my blog posts.  The following is an email that I sent to a close friend of mine:

Dear Xxxx,

    I've been thinking about how putting our hearts into anything that isn't God is wrong.  The scriptures teach that we should love God with all our "heart, might, mind, and strength."  That was true in the mission, too.  We knew that we had to serve God with all our hearts.  We learned that anytime we put our hearts into something else, like ties, food, writing home, etc., it compromised our ability to put our hearts into our missions.

    I believe that normal life is the same way.  We are required to spend our time on things that take our effort or attention that are  secular in nature, but if we put our hearts into those things, we compromise our ability to put our hearts into God.

    It's much easier to live life with our hearts placed on other things around us.  Giving our heart only to God is painful.  Caring about others more than ourselves is also important and does not compromise our ability to give our hearts to God.  But so many other things that seem good really do compromise our ability to give our all to Him.  Sometimes we think that we are doing something for others when we really aren't.  Sometimes we are really doing it for ourselves, and when we try to force it into a shape that benefits others in some way it seems to work for a little while, but ultimately leads us away from what is most important.  That is because the nature of our engagement with the activity is self-centered.  Because the activities are not inherently evil and seem to have the potential to really help people, it is easier for us to be deceived by it or even lie to ourselves about the nature of what we are doing.  We may feel like there is heavy opposition against us, when in reality it is just ourselves making a mess of things.

    A rule that have I developed for myself is that if any activity makes it more difficult to place my family in the center of my life I will cut it out of my life immediately, not matter how innocent or even good it may seem.  It has struck me that there are some people who I greatly respect that at times in their lives have had to repent and course correct in order to make their families the most important thing.  I think to myself:  "If I love and respect these people so much, and even THEY had to repent, I will have to exert every effort to avoid the same mistake."

     I never want to make that mistake, Xxxx.  I want my family never to doubt that I value them more than anything else in my life.  I want to be true  to them from the very beginning of my family until the ends of eternity.

     Here is a question:  Has your opposition of the idea that a prophet can never lead the Church astray made it easier or harder for you to make your family your top priority?  Has your work and schooling choices made that harder or easier?

    Remember that God said, "Yea, and cry unto God for all thy support; yea, let all thy doings be unto the Lord, and whithersoever thou goest let it be in the Lord; yea, let all thy thoughts be directed unto the Lord; yea, let the affections of thy heart be placed upon the Lord forever."  and "Look unto me in every thought."

     Does following the Prophets and Apostles as completely as if hearing the Lord himself make it easier or harder to make our families the highest priority?

     I know what my answer to that question is.

Love,

Gavin

          A litmus test is a question that is asked to determine, in a black or white manner, if something is good.

           Here are some of mine:  Does the activity make it easier or harder for you to care about another person's happiness  more than your own?  Does the activity make it easier or harder for you to genuinely help others when they need it?  Does it increase your ability to love?  Does it make it easier or harder for you to follow the Spirit?  Does it invite clarity or confusion?  Does it  bring you closer or farther from the promises in your Patriarchal blessing?  Does it put a piece of your heart into something that is not God or His children?  Does it make it easier or harder to make your future or current family your first priority?

          I believe that if we as we honestly evaluate our lives on the premise of these questions and act accordingly, our lives will truly be pleasing to God.